The other day I went to go have lunch with a friend. It had been a while since we had caught up but I was astounded when she told me she was engaged. In the three months since I had last seen her she wasn’t just in a new relationship, she was engaged!
So I guess I should mention that my friend is lesbian, (kind of the whole point of this blog) – and I have always been pro love. That is to say I don’t care who gets married, as long as they are in love, to me, that’s worthy of a marriage license. In fact, I think gay couple relationships work out better than most heterosexual relationships. However, I have never actually known any one, who I have known personally*, that is gay and that has announced their engagement to me. And I felt… weird.
After much thought towards my feelings, I found it interesting what spiked my uneasiness of the situation. Because it actually wasn’t the in-my-face notion of gay marriage, and it wasn’t the hastiness of their decided long term commitment either. The weirdness came from me wondering, “is that legal?”
That is so weird right? I have never seen my friend light up the way she had when she would talk about her partner, and this is clearly a woman who is changing her for the better and they are so obviously just right for each other. And all I can think about (aside from the happiness I felt to see her in such a warm place in her life) was the legality and legitimacy of her marriage.
Like I had previously mentioned – I have always been pro love, but this is the first time in my life that the situation had truly hit home. I have a good friend; a good person, an intelligent and strong woman, who deserves nothing less in life than what she strives for. What she wants is to get married and to someday maybe start a family with the person she loves and that may not be recognized as a “real” marriage.
I don’t know, it’s something that has just been on my brain for the past few days – how could this country deny someone their right to happiness when it is one of the foundations that make up the United States? “Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” I mean Love is love, right? As human beings, that’s what most of us spend our whole lives truly searching for. Unconditional love. I can’t think of anything worse than someone saying to me “no, you’re not allowed to be in love with this person.” This is the 21’st century right? Someone should remind the government…
D Rose
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